A Night on
an evocative story about love, grief and finding peace at the end of life.
A Night on Buddy’s Bench was written as a way through grief and loss after our family experienced multiple unexpected deaths of loved ones, young and old. In the five years since its publication, the book has traveled around the world to places as diverse as New York, Sweden, and a Tibetan monastery. While grief is intensely personal, holding and honoring our feelings of both loss and the preciousness of life is a universal spiritual calling – one that many of us are now confronting as we lose loved ones, colleagues, and friends to Covid-19.
However painful, grief can also be a gift. When we face the experience of grief, when we allow ourselves to wrestle with it, when we allow it to flow through us, grief can release us into the rhythms of life where strength and courage can be found. We hope reading, listening to, and sharing A Night on Buddy’s Bench helps you and your loved ones reflect upon and honor the end of life and the transition to death as a sacred place and time.
Finding Peace on Buddy’s Bench
In hope of solving the ultimate mystery –"Why do we die?" – an Old Man ventures out late at night to Buddy’s bench, drawn by rumors of its kind resident Spirit. Unsure what he believes or where to begin, he experiences a profound realization that fills his heart with peace.
A Night on Buddy's Bench is a picture and audio book designed to help initiate end-of-life conversations that can comfort both the living and the dying – perfect for sharing with those who are in hospice or dealing with loss, or for contemplative reading.
Excerpt from A Night on Buddy's Bench
“The writing is absolutely breathtaking. The symbols used in the book allowed me take a step back and really look into what was being shared about the old man’s life, his peace and his death. I would love the opportunity to share this with our volunteers, and families in order to help them gain a better understanding.”
- Betty J Dunsmoor
LMSW, ACSW, PhD
Oswego County Hospice Volunteer / Bereavement Coordinator
Director of Camp Rainbow of Hope
A Pilgrim’s Way through Grief –
A Guide to A Night on Buddy’s Bench
A Pilgrim’s Way through Grief is a collaboration with the Hospice Palliative Care Association of New York State. (HPCANYS). This guide explores the story of Buddy’s Bench and how to use the book as a springboard for journaling and artistic expression as forms of healing.
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This booklet is designed for Pilgrims to record and/or draw about their experiences facing their own or another’s death, wrestling with loss and grief, and making meaning out of holding grief and gratitude together.
"My mom died in December, my dad seemed to be in decline ... A Night on Buddy’s Bench led my soul, and inspired me to write." -Reader
This 6-minute film introduces the spirit that inhabits Buddy’s Bench – what we might encounter when we are called to face, find meaning, and be transformed through grief and loss.
“Very few of us are spared a journey through the wilderness of grief in this life. Your inspired, brave, compassionate guidebook is going to be a comfort to many on their journey. Your efforts are a blessed service to humanity.”
Founder and Director, American Meditation Institute
Hearts Quarantined Series
“Through your writing, doodles, and voice you offer a clear and sensitive view of our world and a vision of what it can be. Thank you for sharing your heart and thus giving us space in which to share ours.”
–Venice Peace Project