A Night on

Buddy's Bench

an evocative story about love, grief and finding peace at the end of life

Finding Peace on Buddy’s Bench

In hope of solving the ultimate mystery "why do we die?" an Old Man ventures out late at night to Buddy’s bench, drawn by rumors of its kind resident Spirit. Unsure what he believes or where to begin, he experiences a profound realization that fills his heart with peace.
A Night on Buddy's Bench is a picture book and audio CD designed to help initiate end-of-life conversations that can comfort both the living and the dying. With its heart-felt words and beautiful watercolors, A Night on Buddy's Bench is perfect for sharing with family members or friends ho are in hospice or dealing with loss or for contemplative reading. 
Excerpt from A Night on Buddy's Bench
“Recently, I had the opportunity to review your book. Needless to say, your writing is absolutely breathtaking. The symbols used in the book allowed me take a step back and really look into what was being shared about his life, his peace, and his death. I would love the opportunity to share this with our volunteers, and families in order to help them gain a better understanding.”
- Betty J Dunsmoor 
LMSW, ACSW, PhD
Oswego County Hospice Volunteer / Bereavement Coordinator
Director of Camp Rainbow of Hope

Read our book review on Full Circle, by Circle of Friends for the Dying

A Pilgrim’s Way through Grief –

A Guide to A Night on Buddy’s Bench

A Pilgrim’s Way through Grief is a collaboration with the Hospice Palliative Care Association of New York State. (HPCANYS). The guide in Section One (The Journey) explores the story of Buddy’s Bench and the author’s own experiences in facing grief as a pilgrimage. Section Two (The Practice) explores ways to use Buddy’s Bench in one-on-one encounters, groups sessions, and as a springboard for journaling and artistic expressions as forms of healing.
To read HPCANYS endorsement, click here.

The Journal

A small journal booklet (60 pages) designed for Pilgrims to record and/or draw about their experience of being called to the bench, to face one’s own or another death … being on the bench wrestling with loss and grief, making meaning and … returning from the bench, transformed, holding grief and gratitude together...

"My mom died in December, my dad seemed to be in declined ... A Night on Buddy’s Bench led my soul, and inspired me to write." -Reader
“Very few of us are spared a journey through the wilderness of grief in this life. Your inspired, brave, compassionate guidebook is going to be a comfort to many on their journeys. Thank you for this beautiful gift you have given the world, and thank you for letting us be among the first to appreciate it.
Your efforts are a blessed service to humanity.”
- Leonard Perlmutter 
Author of Art and Science of Yoga – Empowering Self Care Program for a Happy, Healthy, and Joyful Life 
Founder and Director, American Meditation Institute

Spirit Calling

This short film introduces the spirit that inhabits the bench - what we might find when we are called to face, find meaning in, and be transformed by our grief.
"Artists are moved to depict Grief as a woman: the goddess Demeter crying for Persephone, the hooded figure by Augustus Saint-Gaudens for the Adams Memorial. In this tradition, the photographer Jenny Zander has created unforgettable images of the emotional complexities of grief, personified by Nadine Baumgarten against compelling lakeside landscape and a narrative sound-scape. The scenes are beautifully staged - both the model and her surrounds painted and arranged to achieve transcendence. The voice-over poem by Ira Baumgarten invokes acceptance of the gift of grief … this film is a gift for all whose grieving is fresh, or deeply embedded." 
-Diane DeBlois
Editor, Ephemera Journal, Postal History Journal

Buddy's Bench Collaborates with National Hospice Foundation

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